When we feel like our needs are not being met — Love and relationships.

When our needs are not being met — Love and relationships

When we feel like our needs are not being met — Love and relationships.

Whenever we feel like our needs are not being met when it comes to our relationships I feel like we are looking to the wrong direction.

We are looking to the wrong direction and not recognizing the source that is that love and wellbeing that we are looking for to experience.

Let me explain what I mean.

When it comes to my relationships whenever I feel like my needs are not being met, I know that the problem is not the other person.

The problem is my thinking and current way of seeing life.

With all the honesty I do get caught up in my thinking. I do judge.

However I feel grateful to have been able to see what I have seen, and I know that at some point I will wake up.

I will wake up again from the dream of my judgement and recognize the deeper truth.

And I will remember again that there’s only one place where I can put my whole faith into.

Only one thing that is unshakenly always right. Only one place that can ever offer me all the love and happiness that I can ever experience.

And that is the unconditional, impersonal love we all have already within us.

I feel like we get confused sometimes.

All these wonderful feelings of love that we have been able to experience when it comes to our relationships. We get confused and believe that the other person is the source of these feelings and that feeling of safety that we long for.

However the other person was never the source of that love and safety in the first place.

It might have looked like they were, but they weren’t.

The love has always come from within us, when we have let go of the personal and connected with the impersonal.

When we have become present in the company of the other person and have been able to recognize these glimpses of their true essence.

The essence we all carry within us.

But they were never the source.

People are messy.

I am messy and every single person I have ever met I know that they have gotten a little messy from time to time.

We can never put our whole faith into expecting the other person to provide us what we need.

That’s impossible.

The only place that we can trust that will always provide us what we need is when we turn within.

Turn within and connect with that love we already have within us. Connect with that feeling of safety that is already there. That energy that will always take care of us.

This doesn’t mean that I can’t trust my partner to be there for me.

However it does mean that I do recognize how we are all only humans.

I do recognize that we all get caught up in our thinking and get a little messy from time to time.

And it does mean that I become more free to love unconditionally.

Love the other person unconditionally, with all their defects and all.

Love myself unconditionally with all my defects and faults.

When we stop expecting the other person to provide us what we need, we become free to connect with that unconditional love we already have within us.

We become free to love unconditionally.

And we are better able to connect with that source that will always provide us what we need — And more.

We become free to love.

Truly love and experience the beauty that is already there when it comes to our relationships.

Life and our relationships become so much easier when we stop expecting the impossible and accept our humanness.

Then and only then we can connect with that unconditional love we already have within us, in levels that we have never experienced before.

And that is only the beginning of falling more deeply in love with the other person when it comes to our relationships as well.

With love,
Heidi

Heidi Paavilainen

Sharing an understanding that allows us to connect more with that deeper part within us, so that we can find our own answers from within, find that greater sense of wellbeing and have relationships that feel good.

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