I think that what we all want when it comes to our relationships is to both have and be a supportive partner.
How can we then best be that ourselves? How can we best support the other person?
What I have learned to see when it comes to my relationships is that the best way for me to support another person is to show up from that place of love and understanding.
The place from where we come from within us affects others way more than the words we use.
When we show up from that place of peace and love we automatically do and say the right things.
We are connected to our common sense and are able to recognize the bigger picture.
We are able to see how ultimately the other person is fine. We’re able to recognize their inner wellbeing.
And when we recognize this wellbeing within them we do help to bring it forth.
My partner has shared how those times when I have simply listened to him have been the most helpful moments for him.
He might have had a hard day at work and has felt frustrated.
Many times we don’t understand what a simple listening does to others.
We know that we feel good when we have been listened. But when it comes to supporting others we may feel like we need to share our own advice and opinions.
Why is simple listening many times more effective than sharing our own opinions?
Because what works best for us human beings is what comes from within us.
What works for one doesn’t work for another.
What works for me doesn’t necessarily work for my partner.
This is why my advice doesn’t always work for others.
However what does work, without an exemption, is finding their own answers from within them.
When we listen to another person with an open and relaxed mind we are connected to that love and wellbeing within us. And we begin to draw out that wellbeing from the other person as well.
Our presence becomes calming.
This helps the other person to let go of their analytical thinking and connect with something deeper.
Connecting with that love, wellbeing and common sense that we all have within us.
From that place not only are we able to experience the warmth of our relationship but also it becomes very clear for us what to do.
Our minds are clear and we are connected to our common sense. We feel calmer and are able to see the bigger picture.
Our minds are more open and we receive more creative solutions. We simply know what we need to do. We know what is the next step to take.
Showing up from this place of love and understanding doesn’t only allow us to be those loving and supportive partners we want to be. But it also allows us to enjoy better relationships.
Whenever we are connected with that wisdom and love within us we naturally enjoy better relationships.
Showing up from that place of love and deeper understanding is the key.
Recognizing how the other person has all the wisdom and wellbeing within them that they need. Knowing this in the depths of our hearts.
Recognizing this and listening what they have on their hearts.
Listening with an open and relaxed mind.
This is what will allow us to enjoy those loving and caring relationships that we are here to experience. And this is what will allow us to show up as those loving partners who we truly are from our inner essence.
Sharing an understanding that allows us to connect more with that deeper part within us, so that we can find our own answers from within, find that greater sense of wellbeing and have relationships that feel good.
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