“If the only thing people learned, was not to be afraid of their experience, that alone would change the world.” — Sydney Banks
This is what I’ve lately begun to see more and more.
Whenever we resist a thought, it persists and creates an uncomfortable feeling. And on the other hand whenever we allow our thoughts to flow freely, we experience love.
This might feel hard for us to allow to happen when we experience something that we don’t like. When we feel disconnected to the other person and all we would love to do is to find that feeling of connection again.
If we don’t understand where our experience is coming from we might feel insecure. We might believe that our experience in the moment is telling us something about the other person or the relationship, when in reality our experience is telling us where is our thinking in the moment.
Every single one of us we have the freedom to listen to either our hearts or our personal thinking. We have the freedom to listen to our egos or to that inner guidance that always guides us towards more love and more happiness.
We are blessed with this guidance system that guides us through life and allows us to create a joyful or not so joyful experience of life.
The more we listen to our hearts, meaning the more we listen to the kind of thoughts that make us feel good, the more beautiful will be our experience. And on the other hand the more we listen to our egos, the kind of thoughts that weight us down, the less we will enjoy life.
We cannot expect to find love and happiness when we listen to our insecure, negative or stressful thinking. That kind of thinking will always lead us towards less joyful experience. But on the other hand if we want to experience more love we actually need to first look towards that good feeling. We need to focus on the kind of thinking that makes us feel good and lifts us up.
If we feel disconnected to the other person that simply means that our focus is on something that we don’t want. If we keep on looking to that direction we’ll experience more of that.
On the other hand if we understand that our experience is coming from our thinking in the moment, and we don’t take ourselves so seriously, our experience will change.
Our thinking calms down, our mood shifts and we’re back in that feeling of love again.
Feeling connected to the other person simply means that we’re able to experience the connection that exists between two people when we have a calm mind. We’re able to experience the love when our mind is still.
We have the power either to look to the direction of our stressful feeling and create more feelings of disconnection when it comes to our experience, or allow every thought and feeling to flow freely through us. And when we do this our experience changes into love.
When we are not afraid of our experience and don’t resist a thought, we experience love and find that feeling of connection again.
If you feel disconnected to the other person just know that you are caught up in your thinking and that you don’t need to take your thinking in the moment so seriously. It’s perfectly normal that we all feel disconnected from time to time. And if we don’t create a problem out of that our experience will change and we’ll soon feel good again.
We can allow ourselves to flow through our experience and as soon as our thinking calms down, we’re able to find that feeling of connection again and see clearly.
When we don’t resist our experience, no matter of the feeling that we are caught up with, our experience changes.
And this is how we find love again.
Heidi Paavilainen
Sharing an understanding that allows us to connect more with that deeper part within us, so that we can find our own answers from within, find that greater sense of wellbeing and have relationships that feel good.
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