You are exactly where you are supposed to be in life

You are exactly where you are supposed to be in life

There’s something special about birthdays. They just make my heart smile.

The people who you haven’t talked for years message you and send their wishes, the loved ones treat you extra well.

Every year I feel like my heart expands and my understanding grows. I hear people stressing about their age, but I feel in peace within myself, because I know that I’m not limited by any number.

That’s why yesterday, the day before my birthday, I was surprised when I began to question my place in life. I began to question if I was where I was supposed to be at this age and expressed my feelings to my partner.

Even in the middle of the questioning and experiencing my negative feelings I knew that I was caught up in a thought. My understanding, the presence of my partner and his perspective allowed me not to get fully involved with my emotions and a moment later I saw the illusion I had been caught up with.

We are where we are supposed to be

It’s sometimes so easy to get caught up in a thought and focus on what we don’t have instead of seeing everything that we do.

The understanding that we are only experiencing our own perception of life allows us to let go of our limited thinking and come back to the present moment, where we can see life more clearly again.

We are not our age nor our thoughts, but the limitless power beyond that. You my friend, are much more than you have been able to see and exactly where you are supposed to be.


Because you have access to all the happiness and love you are looking for in this moment.

It’s not about getting what we want or being where we think we are supposed to be in life that makes us happy. It’s about becoming more aware of the happiness that resides already within us.

And somehow, when we first find the feeling of happiness also our hopes and dreams begin to take a form. When we first find the happiness within, also our outside world bends more towards our dreams.

Not the other way around.

What stops us from seeing this

What stops us from seeing what we already have, and creates an illusion that we lack something in life, or that we are not where we should be, is a stressful thought we take too seriously.

When we have a thought like “I’m not where I’m supposed to be” or “If only I had that perfect job/relationship/life I would be happy” and we believe that thought, that is exactly what we are going to experience.

Our thoughts and feelings are directly linked to each other. This means that whatever we think, we will feel.

Getting caught up in our thinking and not understanding what is happening makes us to lose the awareness of what we already have.

Getting into our heads and taking our stressful thoughts too seriously stops us from seeing that we are exactly where we are supposed to be.

We have already what we are ultimately looking for, whether we are in the present moment to experience it or lost in our thinking and unable to see this from the noise of our thoughts.

The power of the present moment

It’s perfectly fine to lose sight of this, like I did yesterday, but know that ultimately we are all already fine and we are exactly where we are supposed to be in life.

We have everything we need to experience happiness in this moment and leave behind everything that doesn’t serve us anymore.

Becoming more present allows us to let go of our stressful thinking so that we can come back to the present moment to experience this.

The power of the present moment is limitless. The present moment is where we want to be, so that we can become aware of the happiness within and everything that we already have in our life.

In the present moment there always exists a possibility for a new thought, and therefore for a new experience of life and future.

The only thing you need to find your place in life is to see through your limiting thinking, so that you can let go of your stressful thoughts, become more present and see this with your own eyes.

With these thoughts I will soon turn off my laptop and dedicate my day and the weekend for celebration. Celebration of life, love and all the wonderful people and everything that I already have in my life — And welcoming more years to come.

With love,

Heidi Paavilainen

Sharing an understanding that allows us to connect more with that deeper part within us, so that we can find our own answers from within, find that greater sense of wellbeing and have relationships that feel good.

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2 thoughts on “You are exactly where you are supposed to be in life”

  1. WOW. You have put it all in perspective. What you say is so true, if only people could see life through your eyes.

    1. Heidi Paavilainen

      Thanks so much for your lovely comment Clark, I’m so glad you enjoyed the post. If only we could see life all through our inner eyes. <3

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